How to control yourself with better self representation.

The first step to control yourself is to control your self representation. If you are strong enough to control your appearance. You can mould your personality and life according to your choice.

Self-control is all about to control and change your choices to the best of your life.

Table of contents

• What is self representation
• How you can control your self representation
• How You can control yourself
• Go for healthy habits
• How lack of self control affects your life
• Conclusion

What is self representation

Your inner self design presents you before the world.

Most of us are products of the environment in which we live. We are reacting in response to others’ actions.

You can say you are ignorant of the fact that you look crazy or ambitious.

How do you look like , influence others’ thoughts and feelings about you, and have behaviour towards you.

Most important factors that influence your appearance.

Self referent thoughts

Self view

What do you think about yourself. How do you value your interests.

Self image

How do you look at yourself. Whether you are shaggy or tidy. You are up to date mode and dashing. You look unorganised, dishevelled, and look confused.

You are useless, good for nothing, fellow.

You are wonderful. Any event is incomplete without you. You are intelligent and smart.

Self concept

You think low of yourself. You can’t do that. Your abilities are insufficient to do this task. You always doubt yourself.

No, I am the best of all. I can set everything right. Nothing is beyond my range. My ideas work well. I can set the goals and achieve them effortlessly. I am focused clear and confident.

Feelings

Sad

Sadness haunts you all the time. You find a pessimistic view of your situation and enjoy it from the core of your heart.

You always look gloomy.

Anxious

You are over stimulated. Always catch the emotional point in the situation. It makes you anxious. Your overstimulated nature makes you anxious. You are thinking all the time about a situation, whether it is positive or negative. You are short tempered.

Guilty

Something wrong done from your hands intentionally or unintentionally makes you guilty. You want to correct it, but the time has passed. There is no other way round except lamenting. Now you have become a picture of mourning. From head to toe guilty for wrongdoing. It stops you from moving forward in your life.

Lost within

You look like disconnected with the world around you. You are lost in your prime time or bad time. You are overwhelmed, not available in real-life fancies surrounding you. You cherish that prison. Never try to get out of it.

Happy

You are a lively and smiling person. Everyone loves to speak to you. And more over likes your company . Everyone wants to get rid of tension and depression. You are a fresh and cool breeze for them. Affecting their lives in a positive way.

Behaviour

Rude

You are rude enough to answer bluntly. It’s always egoistic. Fighting for self assertion. Everyone scared facing you. And avoids your company.

Cooperative

Operative persons are welcomed by all and in demand in society. You can say they are pillars of social system.

Positive

A positive attitude deletes most of the darkness in your life. Makes your life happy and makes it easier to live. Less contradictions, less tensions.

Negative

A negative attitude always creates a contradictory situation. Negative people always fight with himself and for himself. Nothing is acceptable for them. They find disagree point in every situation. It should not be so. We should think otherwise. No one agrees. It does not matter.

I will stay fixed. I am right.

Fussy

fussy is a person with much fuss in his life. He is doing everything without any purpose. Unaware of what to do and where to go.

fickle

A person that is short tempered and changes simultaneously just like weather.

How it gives meaning to experiences

A personality reflects through your point of view. How you interpret a situation. What you learn from your experiences. Every person sees different aspects of a situation and discovers the hidden meanings.

A most witty person can interpret a situation very alarming. While others see no harm or benefit in it.

How to react

Your reaction reflects your insight. Your wisdom or intelligence is measured from your reaction. Your calm poise shows that you have a better understanding. Un civilised reaction shows your hollowness.

How you can control your self representation

we have discussed in detail what qualities a person may have.

Now the question arises: Do you present yourself as you are. Or you mould yourself according to the situation.

Can you calm your anger or furious attitude or let it bombard the other person.

Whatever the consequences you have to face.

Your appearance influences others to take positive or negative action against you.

Self control controls your self representation.

And you can present yourself better by

Self care

Only a look at you decides the attitude of a person towards you. Your elegant look earns respect and attention from others. People listen to you and value your opinion.

A confused and messy look kicks you out of social gatherings. People avoid your presence. Take you for granted. Your most precious opinions are disregarded.

Control free impulses burst out and present you as weak minded. An opinion automatically develops. If you can’t control your impulses, how can you take hold of important projects assigned to you.

Your self care presents you as self awared, self esteemed, and confident person.

Challenge of self control

Everyone knows that self care affects self representation. It’s not impossible. In fact, it is very easy with a little effort.

Challenge lies in it’s implementation of self care. When you decide to follow the routine set by you. Your impulses move you towards other things . Distractions enchant you, and you fall prey to them. Your daily plans fail because of distractions.

How You can control yourself

Here are some ways to present you dashing.

To control yourself refine yourself and define yourself.

By controlling your behaviour

Self-control influences healthy and active behaviour. Your eating and sleeping and reacting in a critical situation requires self-control. To best utilise your time, you have set a routine in eating, sleeping, and working.

In some cases it’s genetic

When it’s genetic, it is uncontrollable and unchangeable.

Command your will power

Willpower is an energy to do something. Your willpower dies away in front of impulses and temptations. This loss of energy makes you a weak person. You get trapped by impulses. Only the bad consequences of your actions and impulses can stop you from doing this. Willpower can be commanded if you think deeply that you have to face bad consequences.

Will power is your inner strength.

Use your energy the right way and value yourself socially and financially and spiritually.

Make good choices

Opt for long-term benefits and discard short-term benefits. Make a choice of what is right for you and then stick to it.

Choices should be made wholeheartedly so that you can hold on for a long time. Your willpower to follow this choice should be calculated and justified to support your willpower energy.

Increase your focus level

You can achieve better self-control if your focus level is high.

Clearer focus

is mandatory for success.

Strengthen your mind

Strong mind fosters better self-control.

Calmness

You need to calm your mind. Connect yourself with nature. Observe meditations.

Acceptance makes you calm and contented. 
Accept and believe in Your Creator.
Go for a long walk. Walk on a lush green grass. Listen to chirping of birds.

Boost your energy

A healthy and energetic person enjoys full hold over the situation. Energy helps you to stay longer on a task. And uses full energy until its accomplishment. Lazy and weak people leave the task in the lurch.

Go for healthy habits

Adopt healthy habits to attain better self-control and self-esteem.

Exercising

Blood circulation keeps you active and lively. At least daily half-hour exercise is a must for connection of mind and body.

Health checkups

Routine checkups ensure better health.

Take care of your body for healthy mind.

Eat healthy

Healthy eating increases energy levels. Healthy glow attracts success and happiness.

Drink water

Drink plenty of water to stay hydrated and fresh.

Be social

Increase your social circle. It will help you live with enthusiasm. You will meet and idealise great ones. Then, set goals to achieve higher positions. You will discard old attitudes and go for new ones. You will change with the changing society.

You have to control bad habits and attitudes.

You would like to look better and present yourself better.

Read Books

Read books for self development. Better understanding helps in self actualisation.

How lack of self control affects your life

Lack of self-control greatly affects our lives.

Social life

Socially, you prove a misfit. No one likes to befriend you. You are neither refined nor defined. Well presented personalities are loved and liked by everyone.

Deserted personality.

Everyone likes a composed and descent person, not a confused and untidy person.

Personal life

Your personal life is dealing with yourself. When you lose control here. You get stressed and demotivated. If you don’t make choices in your personal life, you get confused and entangled in a meaningless life.

Financial life

Financial crisis comes your way when you don’t complete your tasks on time.

Spiritual life

Spiritually strong people are well disciplined and self controlled. Monks and worshipers get up early in the morning and spend their nights in prayers. They display strong self-control and self awareness. They know how to recognise your SELF and use it according to their needs.

Better control better performance.

Moreover, it gives you peace of mind and inner calm.

Conclusion

Most hopefully, you can change your appearance and personality in a most desired and dreamt manner.

Better understanding of yourself and then better control of yourself can bring drastic change in your self representation to attract success and happiness.

Your modes of thinking and living needs to be revived.

Adopt good habits and discard bad ones.